Think about it, if you are in a relationship with someone on the rebound, you are in a relationship with someone who is needy and vulnerable. Not exactly a safe place to be! Needy, vulnerable people use a rebound relationship as a coping mechanism.

Instead of partnering with you, they are making you responsible for their need to feel better.

Below are a few emotions a person feels after divorce:

Some people deal with these negative feelings by covering them with a new relationship. It is so much more fun to focus on a new love than focus on healing the pain of a divorce.

Some argue that the best way to get over someone is to find a replacement unit. I disagree because a replacement for lost love does not negate the issues that caused...post continued.

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.

You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don't confuse signs with proof.

1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

2. "We are just friends."

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new "friend" then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it's a big warning sign and one you should...post continued

Below is the full text of the apology Tiger Woods post to his website.

I have let my family down and I regret those transgressions with all of my heart. I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect. I am dealing with my behavior and personal failings behind closed doors with my family. Those feelings should be shared by us alone.

Although I am a well-known person and have made my career as a professional athlete, I have been dismayed to realize the full extent of what tabloid scrutiny really means. For the last week, my family and I have been hounded to expose intimate details of our personal lives. The stories in particular that physical violence played any role in the car accident were utterly false and malicious. Elin has always done more to support our family and shown more grace than anyone could possibly expect.

But no matter how intense curiosity about public figures can be, there is an important and deep principle at stake which is the right to some simple, human measure of privacy. I realize there are some who don't share my view on that. But for me, the virtue of privacy is one that must be protected in matters that are intimate and within one's own family. Personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn't have to mean public confessions.

Whatever regrets I have about letting my family down have been shared with and felt by us alone. I have given this a lot of reflection and thought and I believe that there is a point at which I must stick to that principle even though it's difficult.

I will strive to be a better person and the husband and father that my family deserves. For all of those who have supported me over the years, I offer my profound apology.

"But for me, the virtue of privacy is one that must be protected in matters that are intimate and within one's own family."

I agree with the above statement, private matters should be dealt with within one's own family. Wouldn't it be nice for all of us if that was the way life worked.

I've read that Tiger's affairs are no one's business, but what others don't understand is, public scorn is one of the consequences of cheating on a spouse.

If I cheated on my husband you can bet my neighbors and relatives would be talking and sharing opinions. In my little world, it would be a big deal that got the attention of others. The only difference between Tiger and I is that my world is smaller than his.

Tiger Woods cheated on his wife while she was pregnant. What did he think would happen if that "intimate detail" of his life became public? Unless he has been living under a rock he had to have known that celebrity infidelty is big news.

Infidelty is news whether you are a celebrity or not and if you've cheated you really aren't in a position to pass judgment on those who have an opinion about the behavior.

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In a statement posted to his website Wednesday evening, Tiger Woods says that he has let his family down and is sorry for "those transgressions."

Seems Tiger has been a very busy man! Two other women have now come forward to talk about their relationship with Tiger Woods.

Jaimie Grubbs has released the audio content of a voicemail she received from Tiger. USWeekly Magazine has posted the voicemail if you care to listen.

"Hey. It's , uh, it's Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Um. Can you please take your name off my phone? My wife went through my phone and may uh, may be calling you. If you can, take your name off that, and if you can just have it has a number on the voicemail. Just have it as your number. Do me a huge favor. Okay?"

Kalika Moquin, like Rachel Uchitel, is another nightclub executive, this time a marketing manager with the Bank Nightclub in Las Vegas. However, unlike Jaimie Grubbs, she is not talking about everything that happened.

According to Life and Style Magazine, Kalika Moquin, left, a marketing manager for The Bank nightclub in Las Vegas She hooked up with Tiger more than once at his Las Vegas hotel during the weekend of Oct. 23.

Another well-respected icon shows his true colors. We are all human and prone to make mistakes but if you are going to wear a good guy persona, why not put effort into living the life you promote to the public?

I don't understand infidelity. It is sex folks! It isn't food needed to sustain life. It doesn't feed our emotional needs. It is nothing more than sex with someone other than your spouse and although it may feel good, it can cost you dearly.

I wonder if Tiger is feeling sex with other women is worth what he is going through personally and professionally now that he has been exposed. Bet the man is wishing he had kept his pants on.

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Is Tiger Woods really having an affair with Rachel Uchitel?

TMZ.com is reporting that Rachel Uchitel is the reason behind Tiger Woods recent car accident.

I'm not sure if the National Inquirer had published a story claiming Woods and Uchitel were having an affair or had plans to, whichever, Elin Woods got wind that there was an "affair." Armed with that knowledge she then armed herself with a golf club and went after her husband.

First reports were that Woods had facial lacerations due to the car accident. Woods however told a "non-law enforcement" type that Elin Woods confronted him about the alleged affair. The argument became heated and she scratched Wood's face.

Guess you could say she was marking her territory!

At this point, Tiger attempted to remove himself from the conflict via his Cadillac SUV but Elin followed him swinging a golf club.

Tiger became confused as his wife beat the SUV with the golf club...who wouldn't? He was so distracted he ran into a fire hydrant and then a neighbor's tree. After the accident, Tiger was in and out of consciousness.

Out of concern for his safety, Elin Woods took the golf club, broke out the rear window of the SUV, and enabled Tiger to escape the car. I had to chuckle at the idea of Elin rescuing Tiger with the same club she had earlier tried to assault him with.

Rachel Uchitel, a director of VIP services for Pink Elephant, a company that specializes in the New York club scene, admits she has met Woods on a number of occasions, but told the New York Post that she'd never seen him outside work and had never had an intimate relationship with him.

"This is nothing to do with me. We have never had an affair, and the claims we did are completely false... I am really upset about it because I am being portrayed as a home wrecker, when it simply isn't true."

I'm inclined to take Uchitel at her word, at least until the rest of the story comes out. Tiger and wife Elin are scheduled to have an official interview with the Florida Highway Patrol on Sunday about the cause of the accident.

For now, all is speculation and hopefully speculation that caused Elin Woods to over-react.

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The holidays are centering points for families. What do you do with the holidays when dealing with divorce or broken relationships, you may wonder, "how can I celebrate anything?" How can you embrace Thanksgiving or sing about "Joy to the World" or light the candles on the menorah or tell the stories of Kwanza when your life is crumbling all around you?

As hard as it is, it's in times of distress and heartache that you absolutely should celebrate the holidays. The fact is the holidays endure through everything. They are part of the solid ground that transcends what's happening on the surface of our lives. They reassure us that there are some things that do not change and demand celebration no matter what. Holidays are about peace and sharing and gratitude and love. During tragedy, or divorce, or heartache we have to reach down and find those core things at a deeper level, a more meaningful level.

Here is a short list of tips to help you move from grief to celebration. The following suggestions will help you and your family move forward through the holidays. Your divorce is not the end of your life. It's not the end of your family. It's not the end of your happiness. It's not the end of your holidays. Things will change, but you will definitely get back to joy, and you just might find that the true meaning of the holidays will shine brighter than ever.

1. Be patient. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with your family. You will grieve your losses, but remember what you are really celebrating. You can use this time to find new meaning, a deeper connection, and richer joys that you might have...post continued

MOUNT CLEMENS, Mich. -- A Michigan teen has been sentenced to four days in juvenile detention for refusing to visit his father.

Jacob Mastrogiovanni, 14, lives with his mother in Warren. His father, who has joint custody, lives in New Baltimore. Mastrogiovanni said he has deliberately missed court ordered visitations with his father, and because of that, Macomb County Judge John Foster has ruled he should be held in contempt of court and sentenced to time in a youth home.

Mastrogiovanni's mother, Dawn Platevoet, said her son is a hard working student and that she fears for his safety inside the Macomb Juvenile Center. "I'm very worried. I'm very concerned for the well-being of my son," Platevoet said. "The child is being torn in between this kind of situation due to the friend of the court. They're not looking at the best interest for my son." Mastrogiovanni said staying at the youth home for four days would not change his attitude toward his father. "I guess he's going to have to be punished. I don't necessarily like that he's in there but something has to be done," Mastrogiovanni's father, Victor, said by phone Thursday.

Mastrogiovanni would not be specific with why he was refusing to spend time with his father. His reasonings were recorded in a confidentiality agreement being held by the court. Mastrogiovanni said he would rather be in a youth home than visit his father and that he's willing to go back to the youth home again if required by the court.

Mastrogiovanni's family and friends have made signs protesting the judge's decision. "Going to a youth home to be with criminals, for what reason? What is this going to solve? Is it going to benefit the child? Is it going to make matters worse?" Platevoet said.

Mastrogiovanni's mother and grandmother escorted him to the center Thursday evening. He is scheduled to be released Sunday. Platevoet said she plans to picket the court Friday.

When I read the above story several things popped into my mind. What kind of father lets his son go to juvie over visitation? What could the father possibly have done to cause the son to choose juvie over visitation? Is this a case of parental alientation? Is mother so guilty of poisoning her son against his father that she will stop at nothing short of her son spending time in juvie?

Due to the satement by the father..."I guess he's going to have to be punished," I'm leaning toward there being a problem with this father. What kind of father thinks that 4 days in juvie is proper punishment for his son's refusal to visit?

How many fathers reading this blog post think that your child belongs in jail if they refuse to visit?

This is a case of cruel and unusual punishment. It is also another example of the damage adults can do to their children when divorce turns adversarial or they put their needs before the needs of their children.

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Are you considering divorce and wondering what the process will be like? Your states divorce laws will determine what you go through once you have made the decision. Below is a broad outline describing the sequence of events for most divorce cases. Keep in mind that every divorce is different so, along with these steps you will have issues come up that pertain to your individual divorce.

Legal Separation:

Some states do not have laws that allow a couple to participate in a legal separation. In those states, you are married until a court decides otherwise. If your state laws allow couples to separate legally when one or the other spouse leaves the family residence your attorney will petition the courts for a separation agreement. This agreement protects the interests of both spouses and any children of the marriage by making sure that both parties meet their legal responsibilities to each other.

If your state doesn't have laws that allow a legal separation your next step would be to...post continued

Women are six times more likely to end up separated or divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or multiple sclerosis than if their male partners were facing the same illness, according to a U.S. study.

The study confirmed earlier research of a divorce or separation rate among cancer patients of 11.6 percent, similar to the general population, but found the rate jumped to 20.8 percent when the woman was sick versus 2.9 percent when the man was ill.

"Female gender was the strongest predictor of separation or divorce in each of the patient groups we studied," said Marc Chamberlain, director of the neuro-oncology program at the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (SCCA).

The researchers said the reason men leave a sick spouse can be partly explained by their inability to rapidly adjust to becoming a caregiver and to look after the home and family.

Here is my issue with the study...divorce rates are higher among women diagnosed with cancer but does that mean it was the husband who filed for divorce?

I think there are some assumptions made in the study based on little knowledge of who actually took the first step toward divorce. I'm sure there are men, just as there are women who leave after a spouse is diagnosed with a life altering illness.

Let's face it, some people of both genders don't do well under stressful situations and will take a hike rather than support a sick spouse.

The researchers in this study took some data...women with cancer divorce more often. They then jumped to the conclusion that those women divorced because their husbands had abandoned them.

For me this is just another example of society viewing men and low-lives that lack emotional stamina and women as victims of such men.

When most people think of physical and/or psychological abuse they tend to think of women as the victims. Yet, the National Institute of Justice and the Center for Disease Control estimates that 1.5 million women and 835,000 men are the victims of domestic violence each year.

Intimate partner violence (IPV) or domestic abuse as it is more commonly known, is something that society has chosen to ignore for a long time. Less known, and much less understood, is the pattern of abuse that a significant amount of men suffer at the hands of their partner.

Physical Abuse and Male Victims:

• Due to cultural norms that require men to present a strong façade and that minimize female-perpetrated abuse men are less likely to verbalize fear of any kind which keeps them from reporting physical abuse by a partner.




• Every 38 seconds a man is abused by a wife or girlfriend in the United States.




• Societal norms support female-perpetrated abuse in the home. Females have more resources available to them than men who are victims of physical abuse.




• Surveys find that men and women assault one another and strike the first blow at approximately equal rates. Women are equally as likely to strike a man behavior that is excused by societal "norms."




• Men and women engage in overall comparable levels of abuse and control, such as diminishing the partner's self-esteem, isolation and jealousy, using children and economic abuse; however, men...read more abuse statistics