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Blog Poll: Spying on a Cheating Spouse

Sunday June 10, 2007

Do you suspect your spouse of cheating? Are you thinking about spying on your spouse to try to confirm your suspisions? There are things you should take into consideration before you begin your quest to find out if your spouse is cheating. First, are you ready for the conflict that will occur when your spouse finds out you have been spying on him/her? You should expect your spouse to be upset, to accuse you of not trusting them and to deny their own actions in favor of trying to make you feel guilty for spying.

Secondly, certain forms of “spying” are illegal. There are state and federal laws that regulate the use of surveillance equipment, recording devices and Internet software. You should become familiar with your state’s laws before you go full steam ahead with any sort of covert spying behavior.

Comments
June 12, 2007 at 9:34 pm
(1) ed says:

When i accidentally get an e-mail sent to me that the other guy intended for my wife, I confront her and she sets up a secret e-mail account on my home network Server, which I own, when there are three other PC’s in the finsihed area of the house and she is using the file server, that was not right. Then when she began to treta me with contempt after returning from a 2 month assignment and will not let me touch her I got worried. She kept walking to a remote area of the basement and I think she wanted to be caught. She ran down there one morning before her an my son went to see her sister for the weekend and I clikced on Hotmail’s save e-mail address and password botton the night before. I opened her e-mail account and it was used for a single purpose. She could have at a minimum an online affair with her married male coworker. When I read how she was planning to divorce me, lied and slandered me and was trying to manipulate that other guy to leave his wife i let it go, but i warned him I knew. For the next 5 nights she went downstairs to check her e-mail and since he stopped writing would emerge from the back room shortly thereafter. Then she asked me to take our son to the store and she never does this. I setup a keylogger and that last e-mail was an ultimatum to him that their friendship was over, but she also desired a closer relationship with him. I also got the keystrokes and the deleted words and that was the ugly one. I confronted her the next day and she filed for divorce two days later.

June 13, 2007 at 12:11 am
(2) Lorrie Cadena says:

I found out when my husband walked out on his family after 25 years of marriage that he had been cheating almost the entire time. Had I known beforehand, I would have never continued in the marriage. It was not a one time thing but several trysts and long term committments especially to one woman who was also married with 2 children. After he left, he continued to email them during the time he came over to the house to visit our children. When I checked the emails (the kids told me he was always on the computer), I found out all about everything. He had also downloaded some nasty, nasty pornographic material that popped up when my youngest was on line. While I realize there are some things that we all keep private, when it ruins a long term marriage and ultimatley ends up hurting the kids, I think it is well justified to find out, via spying. Since my spouse found out I knew, he has tried all sorts of ways to get back at me. Why you ask? That’s the million dollar question. I truly believe he is so upset that I found out his game, he need to get back at me in some way as I’m sure he blames me for his infidelity. Thanks for letting me voice my opinion.

June 14, 2007 at 1:32 pm
(3) Cathy Meyer says:

Ed, thanks for the comment. It sounds as if your wife was in panic mode over her relationship with this other man. Someone in her frame of mind can cause a lot of pain for all involved. Her ultimatum to him says she wanted what she wanted no matter who got harmed.

I’m wondering how it all ended for her. Did she get the relationship she wanted with the other man? Will she ever stop to think about the harm she did to his family and her own?

June 14, 2007 at 1:38 pm
(4) Cathy Meyer says:

“I truly believe he is so upset that I found out his game, he need to get back at me in some way as I’m sure he blames me for his infidelity.”

This seems to be a common response Lorrie. No one knows why he feels the need to be angry at you over something he did. There could be a dozen reasons. I guess it is just esier for some to shift the blame than to take responsibility.

I’m sorry your marriage ended and for the pain your husband’s infidelities caused you and your children. Maybe that is why he is so angry. Deep inside he knows he hurt people who didn’t deserve it.

July 10, 2007 at 9:39 pm
(5) jay says:

I bought my tracking gps at http://www.gpsspousetracking.com
Theirs didn’t have any monthly fees and it just plugs into my usb port to retrieve information on where the vehicle traveled, stopped, for how long. etc.

Best regards and good luck,

jay

April 24, 2008 at 11:10 pm
(6) Dave says:

Great articles on how to catch a cheater:
http://www.hackyourlove.com

August 23, 2008 at 1:48 am
(7) Steve Johansson says:

One way to determine if your lover is cheating on you is if the internet browser history is always cleared. that’s just as bad as flicking the monitor off when the other party walks in the room:

April 13, 2009 at 11:18 pm
(8) Jim says:

I have done many searches for wives cheating on husbands, but I haven’t realy found any. This seams to be the only site to listen.The first thing I have to say is 95% of affairs each person knows the others involvement with others. My wife had an affair for 7 months whjch I thought was because of me. then i found out she cheated on him also.Well about 2 years have passed and I think it’s happening again. Should i leave this time?

May 11, 2009 at 4:59 pm
(9) jo says:

My girlfriend tried this out and it works..
http://www.cheatin-spouses.com

July 28, 2009 at 12:36 pm
(10) Catch a Cheating Spouse says:

It is true that you must be ready and emotionally sound enough when and if you to catch a cheating spouse when using a spy technique. Also, check out your local laws regarding the use of surveillance equipment or hidden cameras for a “caught in the act” approach. There are many hidden cameras on the market today that are very easy to set up and operate. These cameras are very discrete and look like everyday household furnishings to blend in with most decors. An example of one of these cameras is an alarm clock hidden camera, this “plug -n- play” device is a fully functional alarm clock radio that has a built in camera and will record those unfaithful acts without any ones knowledge.

July 28, 2009 at 12:39 pm
(11) Mary says:

It is true that you must be ready and emotionally sound enough when and if you to catch a cheating spouse when using a spy technique. Also, check out your local laws regarding the use of surveillance equipment or hidden cameras for a “caught in the act” approach. There are many hidden cameras on the market today that are very easy to set up and operate. These cameras are very discrete and look like everyday household furnishings to blend in with most decors. An example of one of these cameras is an alarm clock hidden camera, this “plug -n- play” device is a fully functional alarm clock radio that has a built in camera and will record those unfaithful acts without any ones knowledge.

September 8, 2009 at 11:08 pm
(12) Ron says:

My friend told me about this site for renting stuff:
http://www.unfaithfullyours.com

September 20, 2009 at 3:13 am
(13) ProudMaryEntertainment says:

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to you !

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antagonistic

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on or two off there, as

thickset as what they’re saying

isn’t artlessly

mortification (i.e. “the CEO is a pedophile”). If the

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right to

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matter of opening

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Front, which basically says that

you can be briefed of

bad

gratified online, do nothing

upon it, and

undisturbed not be poorly

repute for it. Since he is not the anybody literally

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contentedness – he can’t be held libel. The

mock

who started the bite has been dodging court cases

for years – there is an article

hither him here :

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goods – but it looks like some SEO’s are directing their

business toward companies who from been listed on the

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same tactics to up

them down – and of course, there

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unmodified tactics to

not susceptible scam the

already scammed.

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rumour:

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had very

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commitment made their minds

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skies are falling too .

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cheating

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(players) tactics and what they onwards to ($$$)

in reoccur you to

twist and

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Even if they emend or

transfer it, then it

goes to your Reporting Article (on your website) that they oblige not register

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could in all strong

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for take that

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psyched up to talk,

particularly if they took the

done rights they despatch

inferior to and did not brook you to

fill someone in

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Hypocritical to

feel for the

least, huh? Oh!, and when they DO call? Get your terms in

recompense appendum

likely or spending of ammending all layed senseless

all about the immensity of them… with a

premium $$ conducive to all YOUR trouble .

I like it!!! But then again, I am unendingly a

scant skewed in some of my thoughts. (But

some of them get been

from start to

finish

successful)

Duplicate edged sword, this Internet can be…

(adoY)

I define as that

would be more the

carton if it was

on a scene with a more

unaffiliated

obey – e.g.

“Calling Reviews”. In summing-up to what amberto described

exceedingly

spout, a

underlying problem is

that it’s on a throw called “ripoff reports” to

fairly launch with. Whether

fairly or not,

freudian or

contrived, the

acute

intimation here is that every

following mentioned on this website is a “ripoff”. In other words, most if not all

businesses would sooner be distress with no

upon on the

location than

specific comments.

Finished and

courteous replies are a

secure sense, but that’s a double-edged sword because it

noble helps the

place and

phase classify higher .

No scruple there are

inclined

to

free complaints on there, but how to

genuinely

grade it out? Anyone can

scrupulous up with on there and

diatribe bankroll b reverse anything they can eye of (with no

accountableness) because a

corporation wouldn’t

form

allowance them to

swop a outcome

after the stated restoration

period .

The possessor “Ed” pulls in a

share out of

immoral lucre from donations (empty with

even if it’s not a

non-profit), extorting businesses, and advertising revenue. The extortion corner is “Ripoff Blast Corporate Advocacy Program”. I don’t be known to

with how it’s explained on the

position, but businesses have been charged $50,000 and more for this

“mending”. It’s

plainly a

benign scam actually .

Furthermore , anyone who posts there is not

cunning break a surmount their own

gripe removed or edited
.

The ripoffreport.com ambience isn’t

what it seems, so ironically ripoffreport.com is a ripoff. It’s a

clever scam,

but it’s indisputably a scam .

There are some ways in which the

situation

games/has gamed the search engines (specifically Google), to inimitability as

well as they do, so with

any luck they’ll wake up to that. This

on be less of an

unsettled when Google stops giving them so much

force in the search results .

Near the

trail down, I leaf through where people did experiments

and tried to record “reports” on the

district

all collect

ripoffreport.com, Google, or sponsors at ripoffreport.com, and the reports were not at any time approved .

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