Getting Back To Great!

Divorce is one of those life events that forces huge changes in your life whether you like it or not. Moving on after divorce, no matter how strong a person you are, is challenging. I know from experience that divorce knocks the wind out of your sails—regardless of who’s at fault or what the circumstances are.

I’m doing great again. Nope, actually I’m better than great. But truthfully, I didn’t think I would ever get here again. Many of you probably are feeling that way right now. I’m writing to give you hope that things will turn out not only okay, but better than okay. OK?

First, this important announcement: There is no Emotional Rescue Squad coming to save you from all this new crap. Yeah, I know, it’s a bummer. You’re alone in your own head every day with a range of emotions—anger, relief, humiliation, depression and fear. You’re confused and overwhelmed at the same moment. Sometimes this goes on for years.

You might feel like a failure and unattractive, like you’ve lost the most valuable years of your life. Just for fun, let’s also throw in your new lack of confidence, getting easily annoyed, occasionally spewing venom , suppressed anger, emotional and physical exhaustion and a fairly incomprehensible aerial view of your life’s choices. Everyone else life seems to have their life together, while you don’t.

You also probably have a lot of new things to worry about ranging from money to work, child care and custodial arrangements, not to mention...read on