Is It Time To Give Up On Your Marriage?

I hear it so often from people in what they consider to be a bad marriage…”when do I quit, when do I stop beating my head against the wall and accept that it is over?”

It is a question I ask my self on many occasions during my marriage. I had made a commitment; I was to stay for “better or worse.” I felt it my obligation to do whatever I could to not break the vows I had made. So obligated that I was giving up who I was and becoming someone I didn’t like.

So, when people ask me, “when is it time to quit” I tell them if the person they are becoming is someone they don’t like, they need to get out of the marriage. If you are in a marriage that requires you to:

• put aside goals you have set for yourself,
  
• isolates you from friends and family,
• limits what you are allowed to do for entertainment,
• requires you to change your belief system,
• to constantly nag to get what you want and need.
• make excuses for your spouse’s behavior,
• feel as if you have to walk on eggshells,
• live in fear of abuse,
• let go of who you are as an individual,
• worry constantly over the problems in the marriage,
• question yourself over and over again about why you are still there,

It is time to give up if you find yourself...read more about giving up on your marriage