Recently, more and more attention is being paid to Alternative Dispute Resolution – ways of solving problems without going to Court. In the area of divorce, an exciting and powerful method that is becoming is Collaborative Divorce. COLLABORATIVE Divorce you ask? How is it that two people who are getting divorced can collaborate? To answer this question, ask yourself the following:
- Are there things about your soon to be former spouse that you like and even love even though your marriage is over?
- Do you love your children more than you dislike or distrust your soon to be former spouse?
- Would you rather become divorced through an adversarial process in which “winning” and “losing” take place and, therefore, cause even more conflict, stress, anxiety and hardship or though a process that aims to assist you in resolving your disputes mutually, respectfully and privately?
- Would you rather allow a Judge to decide what happens with your children and your property or would you rather make these decisions yourself?
- Would you prefer to emerge from your divorce feeling frustrated, bruised and battered or would you rather emerge...read more about collaborative divorce
Your second question: Do you love your children more than you dislike or distrust your soon to be former spouse? Yes. That is precisely why my ex and I decided to go the route of a collaborative divorce.