I've been thinkig alot lately about why divorce seems to be so adversarial for so many people. Sure, your husband or wife may have left you but what is it you are getting out of all the anger? Why do so many choose a divorce that is riddled with conflict over a conflict free divorce?
Divorce hurts like hell, whether you were the one left or the one who did the leaving. Anger stems from the pain we feel but there has to come a time when that anger is replaced by acceptance and the knowledge that it is holding us back from growing through the process.
Sarah over at First Wives World posted a blog today that I feel is important and possibly will help some let go of their anger. Check it out.
Sarah has been able to let go of her marriage without letting go of all the good feelings she has toward her ex. We could all learn alot from Sarah and her attitude.
Maybe, instead of focusing on the pain and anger we should all try to focus on something we found comforting or lovable about our ex-spouse. Divorce does not have to mean a loss of good feelings for the person we have shared a large portion of our lives with.
There are good memories of good times. There are lessons we learn from those we are splitting from that can be used throughout the rest of our lives. It is better to move onto new lives with thoughts of the good times and a willingness to use lessons learned in our hearts. Don't you think?