Are You Living in a Sexless Marriage?
Is there less sex than you feel is appropriate in your marriage? A sexless marriage is one in which a spouse feels there isn’t enough sex or there is no sex at all.
Let me qualify what I have said above by saying that if you want sex every night and your spouse only wants sex three times a week, you are not living in a sexless marriage. If you want sex every night or three times a week and your spouse wants sex once a month, you are living in a sexless marriage.
Your spouse may disagree. Having sex once a month or once every three months may fulfill their need for sex. In their mind they are not living is a sexless marriage because their needs are being met.
The problem lies when there is a huge difference in the sexual needs of the spouses. The definition of a sexless marriage is not dependent upon whether or not there is sex in the marriage but on the effects of differing sex drives in the marriage.
For example, Jay could care less about sex. He had even told Janice, his wife that he didn’t know “what the big deal was about sex.” Jay was quite happy and content having sex...read more about sexless marriage
Hi,
I was wondering if you’ve had a chance to read Kate Dixon’s ebook about sexless marriages and what you thought about it.
I’m thinking of getting it because I’m desperate. It has been longer than I care to admit.
The website looks good but I want to be sure the ebook is good to.
It’s at http://fixyoursexlessmarriage.com
Please let me know
Ive gone 5 years without. NOTHING! My partner cannot have sex because of a bad back. Im going nuts!
I am/was in an unhappy marraige. We were/are having sex once every eight months. I tried everything I could including but not limmited to: date nights, hand holding, flowers, not pressuring her, you name it I tried it. She refuses to discuss it, gets angry to the point where it is just not worth it.
The only reason we had sex every 8 months was probubly because I would be bring up to her the date of our last encounter. So i decided to experiment, and not say a word more about it. To my surprise she does not seems to notice the lenght of time which has gone by, now entering the 10th month since our last encounter. You think she would just be slightest bit curious as to why I don’t get bothered by it anymore. It has come to the point were I don’t even bring it up and she just volunteers excuses why we should have sex another time. (back, headache, tired, filling sick) whatever she says I tell her she is 100% correct i agree and our relationship has never been better.
We have two teens one is 16 one is 14 and that is the reason I have stayed, my relationship with them and their happiness is more important to me then anything in this world. They have no idea how misserable I was, nor will they ever. We live in a fairly affluent community and to outsiders we are perfect.
So here is what I did. I found a woman in a simillair situation no strings attached no commitment and its been awesome. I need to say that my wife and I are in our mid 40’s both in good shape, and if she came close to what our relationship resembled just 5 years ago I would without question end my affair. It completely boggles my mind that even though we are having no intimacy she has not put two and two together. Or the flip side is she has, and either does not care, or is just as happy as I am, because I have to say things have never been better between us. Wanna laugh, at this point if I were to have sex with my wife I would actually be cheating on my girl friend. Another thing that strikes me as funny is that we have a large house with many extra bedrooms, on many occasions I have asked her in a way that looks like I am doing it for her benifit. If she would like me to use one of the rooms so I don’t disturb her at night with the TV and that this way she can have the whole bed to herself. I am good, but I have not been able to make that happen yet. She just refuses to let me have my own room because (get this) she can’t sleep without me there. LOL
I have to say my story sounds a lot like toms. Only I am a woman. We used to fight all the time over sex whenever I brought it up. I have told him that he is ruining our marrage, that he he hurts me so much and makes me feel horrible because I feel I have to beg for sex. I have tried to come on to him. I think in the last 2 years that we have had sex maybe 3 times. I have not cheated on him and I don’t think I will because it would hurt my kids to much. I cannot understand how someone can say that they love you and just throw your marrage away. I am pretty sure he is not cheating on me. Because when he is not home he is at work. I think it is just a really low libido. Why wont he try and fix it? I now think I’m at the point that I don’t want to ever have sex with him because all the anguish that he has made me feel. Also he gets upset if I sleep in another room. If anyone knows any reasons why he is this way please let me know. If not I guess I will wait it out untill my kids are older and divorce him,