If you are a divorced, single mom, you’ve had to heal from the pain of your divorce plus take on thee responsibility of doing the majority of the childcare. You also have to put food on the table and a roof over the family’s head. On top of those things, you naturally want to date and hopefully enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
Those are the five most common challenges facing divorced, single moms today. As with any other life challenge you meet them head on and don’t let the dust settle under your feet. Doing that is easier with support and advice so, I’ve put together a few articles that will help you meet those daily challenges and move past your divorce and onto a rich, rewarding new life.
Healing the Pain of Divorce:
Part of moving on to a new life is healing the pain left from the old one. Staying stuck in old pain limits one's...read more about single mom challenges
I find a few comments in this article interesting – the first is that single mothers automatically struggle because they now have to do most of the childcare. This wouldn’t be true if more mothers allowed fathers to share custody rather than relegating them to every other weekend. It is better for the kids and for mom herself, to share custody on a more even basis.
Second, your statistic that women lose 37% of the household income in a divorce, but you don’t mention how much men lose, even though you do say that women suffer *more* financially. Not only is this misleading, it’s factually wrong. Fathers support not only their own household after divorce, they support mom’s as well in the form of child support and alimony in some cases, and in 85% of cases, they have lost the house to mom, and 50% or more of the financial assets. The fact is that after a divorce, the same amount of money has to now support TWO households, BOTH parents lose financially, but the courts expect the father to work harder to support everyone, all while denying him the right to see his children all but 4-6 days of the month.
It’s time for real equality, during AND after a marriage. “Single” moms need to face the reality of divorce, let dad be a dad, and a lot of the financial and emotional problems will go away for everyone. Fathers that have shared custody pay more child support, and the kids of shared custody have better outcomes, it’s a win-win for everyone, if moms would just let it happen.
Not all court systems value the mom, they give more to the father. As in case, when abuse is involved in the marriage the father should lose rights until evaluated to determine that he won’t hurt the children. When a father is found to be abusive to the children, all rights should be terminated until the father gets psychiatric help. Unfortunately, this just doesn’t happen. There seems to be more and more children abused because of the oversight on part of the court systems because they feel the man should have his parental rights, this is where I disagree with the system.
I agree with T! To add to this post by T, the courts go as far as court ordering the kids go with dad for visits even after he has been found to have been abusing them and or mom before the separation, and even after the separation/divorce. Mom and kids (if young enough) have no say or rights if dad wants to get the kids for visits. If a neighbor, child care worker, babysitter, or stranger abused your kid, no judge or anyone would expect mom to keep taking her kid back to this person. Mom would be charged with neglect or some other form of abuse herself for allowing or putting her child in a dangerous or abusive persons reach.
It will be interesting courtroom debate if Jaycee’s (kidnapped at 11, held for umpteen years in tent in backyard of kidnapper) If this kidnapper/child rapist starts a court case to fight for visits and “fathers rights” with the 2 children fathered by him by means of rape.