Need Solutions to Those Marital Problems?
I've spent quite a bit of time writing about marital problems that lead to divorce. I've not, however given advice on how to find solutions to those marital problems. You first step should always be to seek professional help by seeing a marriage counselor.
If, for some reason marriage counseling is not an option following the five steps below should help find a solution to those marital problems and help you move forward.
Step 1: Name the problem. In naming the problem, you have to be specific. Saying, "he/she never helps around the house" will get you nowhere. If you want your spouse to help around the house you need to outline what specific tasks you need help with. For example, you need help with the laundry, or you wish your spouse would help clean-up after dinner each night.
It is very important to be specific with more severe marital problems. If you've lost interest in sex with your spouse ask yourself "why," and "what" is causing the loss of interest. Is it hormonal, is your spouse behaving in a way that...read more about marital problems
Cathy, My wife is a native Australian. We legally married last year (2008) in Missouri – as she was here on a Religious Worker Visa (R-1) for 3 years. In February she went home and decided she is not coming back. Do I have to go thru all the regular channels of filing for divorce due to abandonment or are there other options that you know of?
Anybody else been down this road? Thanks!
Hi Brent, you will have to file for divorce. The good news is that it will be uncontested. If I were you I would talk to the local court clerk and ask if they have documents you can file yourself for an uncontested divorce. You may be able to do this without an attorney.
If you do end up having to use an attorney the fact that it will be uncontested means the legal fees will be minimul.
Hi Cathy.
My husband has been in limbo for 2 months. He claims he’s been unhappy for the whole 12 years of our marriage – news to me! Yet he can’t tell me exactly what he’s unhappy about, nor why he feels he can’t talk to me. He cannot decide whether he wants to stay or go. He also absolutely refuses to go to any counseling – either by himself or with me. How can he say he’s exhausted all possiblities when couseling isn’t an option? – Michelle