Let's cut to the chase: all of us divorced adults have had sex and most of us still want sex. The problem is that we may not want the 'strings' of a full-on relationship; we just aren't ready. And, as much as masturbation gives our bodies something to 'snack on,' we know what we really want is the Full-Meal Deal.
The question of whether sex without strings is "bad" or "good" ultimately comes down to you, the person deciding. You're the one who has to live inside your head and body, you're the one who holds the gavel. To help you decide when or if you want to cross that line, here are six questions you may want to ask yourself.
- Are you being honest with yourself about what you want?
The last thing you need after walking through the bowels of Divorce Hell is to start emotionally reeling again. And if you think your yearning for sex is actually a yearning for a new relationship, you'll be headed for heartache all over.
Be as clear and honest with yourself as possible. And at the very least, if you decide to go ahead and take the leap, promise yourself you won't beat yourself up if it doesn't turn out as planned.
- Do you feel a sense of value in who you are, regardless of what any other man/woman may think?
In casual sex relationships, partners often don't know, or want to know, everything about each other. This means you shouldn't feel a need to 'prove' who you are and seek validation for your magnificence through his/her eyes - you should KNOW it. You may not TOTALLY be in a place where you...post continued
Great advice, but you forgot the most important part: stay safe!
It’s really hard to build a casual sex relationship when you’ve never had one before. Your article definitely helps – Thanks.