As parents in a blended family the most important issue you will face is how your children will be disciplined. Child discipline in the blended family is something you should discuss and set rules about before marrying.
In the beginning the biological parent should be responsible for the discipline of his/her child. As the stepparent gets to know the child and develops a relationship their role of disciplinarian can be introduced into the relationship.
It is crucial that at some point each biological parent be permitted to and feels comfortable disciplining all the children in a blended family situation. Each parent should ultimately have a role of authority in the children's lives but only after bonding has occurred and relationships have been established.
As in any family it is important to give children plenty of love and balance that love with firm boundaries. This can be more difficult in the blended family until bonds have been formed and...post continued
You are very lucky, David, to have found not just one felame disciplinarian, but two, who can deliver the kind of spanking discipline you need. You obviously have a great deal of trust and respect for their ability to push your limits, but not exceed them.Good luck with that session next week.