Withholding sex seems to be a common method of punishing a spouse. We've all heard about the wife who gets mad and sleeps on the couch or turns her back to her husband in bed. Somewhere down the line she learned that cutting her spouses off sexually was an acceptable way of expressing her anger or punishing her husband for hurtful behavior. In my opinion, to do so is a type of abuse and unacceptable in any relationship.
We all need to have boundaries, limits on behaviors we will not accept from a spouse. There are far more productive ways of setting boundaries and expressing anger than cutting a spouse off from the very thing that bonds a couple together intimately. Next time you contemplate withholding affection and intimacy from your spouse, stop and think. Do you really want to send the person you love the message that you don't desire them sexually?