More divorces are filed in January than any other month of the year. After being cooped up in a bad marriage during the holiday season many folks find themselves moving into the New Year determined to never spend another Christmas in their marriage.
What few think about before filing for a divorce is the reality of what they will actually be getting. You see, divorce doesn't end suffering, it doubles suffering.
Divorce means one house becomes two with all the expense it takes of running both. In other words the income that it took to maintain one home will now have to somehow cover the expense of maintaining two homes.
Divorce is basically trading one set of problems for another, unless you educate yourself and navigate the process in a way that cuts down the expense and is fair to all involved. So, if it is a divorce you want below are a few links to information you need.
What Are Your State's Divorce Laws?
How To Find a Divorce Attorney
What Happens During The Divorce Process?
How Can We Reach a Fair Divorce Settlement?
As with many men, the news (and degree) of my wife’s happiness was a bit of a shock to me. I became an emotional wreck after she left. I turned our marriage over to our regular marriage counselor, but the effort was long and after several months of attending weekly counseling sessions the physical separation was never reversed. Oddly enough, she has never filed for divorce or even legal separation. It’s been over three years now. Although I do realize that: She is no longer the same woman who left me so long ago, I remain ever hopeful of her return. A silly hope. I was her third husband and she “walked out on” the two before me as well. But, hope still springs eternal.
I am just done. I kept on waiting something was going to change, but I have to open my eyes and see that it is not going to happen. I love my husband with all my heart, but I have to retain what is left of my dignity and stop this insanity. He doesn’t respect me nor show me any love, so what am I doing here?
No, it is not easy divorcing your spouse. I should know because after over 20 years of marriage, I decided to file for a divorce after I caught my “estranged” husband cheating for the 2nd time (this time with a married woman and the mother of 4 kids). As far as I’m concerned, it would be just as difficult living in a marriage that is a complete lie. There’s no way I could ever forget the kind of hurt, deception and betrayal he has caused our family. I refused to give him permission to disrespect me and dishonor our daughter. Even though we’re divorcing, I told him that he can always have access to our daughter. I have a right and responsibility to divorce him, but I don’t have the right to keep him from his child. In my opinion, his constant philandering is a symptom of some deeper issues/problems. I’ve reached my limit on tolerating his immature behavior. He’s need to seek professional help and a relationship with God.