Katie Holmes has filed for a divorce citing irreconcilable differences and requesting "primary residential custody of the couple's six year old daughter.
According to TMZ, "Tom is "very sad" and "did not see this coming." We're also told there is some "nastiness" here, evidenced by Katie's move to get sole legal custody."
I'm not interested in their divorce settlement, which one may get what. The first thought for me when I read the news was, "what goes around comes around."
Given the way Tom Cruise has chosen to end his marriages in the past, the way Katie has handled this may be a case of Karma that is long overdue.
Cruise married actress Mimi Rogers in May of 1987. In 1990 after meeting Nicole Kidman on the set of Days of Thunder he divorced Rogers. He broke the break-up news to Rogers by sending her a message, "I'm with Nicole now" before having divorce papers served on her. BAM, out of the blue, he wanted a divorce.
Cruise married Kidman on Christmas Eve 1990. They adopted two children and divorced in 2001 due to irreconcilable differences. The divorce was filed, unexpectedly by Cruise. At the time Kidman was three months pregnant. Within days of the filing Kidman was hospitalized due to a miscarriage. Cruise didn't visit her in the hospital.
Cruise has a habit of blind-siding wives with divorce. Forgive me if I don't feel a lot of empathy for the fact that he has now had the same done to him.
All of us can learn a lot if we experience the same kind of suffering we have inflicted on others. My wish is not that Tom Cruise be punished but that he learn and in doing so begin to honor those who put faith and trust in him as a marital partner.
Dear Kathy,
I don’t know much about the circumstances of Tom’s first divorce, but Nicole had an affair with George Clooney, and that is what caused the divorce with Nicole, from what I have heard. Tom may not have handled it as well as he could have, but he also didn’t spill all the truth out in the media, which says a lot. I do think that karma plays a role- a big role- but no matter, currently I do feel sad that Katie has asked for a divorce. Especially if she didn’t even talk to him about it first- that’s sad.
I agree with the writer, Cathy Meyer.
Also, Dorothy, I’m wondering where you got information from that Nicole had an affair with George Clooney? Court papers that were made public about the Cruise/Kidman divorce star clearly that Tom sprung it on her and blind-sided her. Do you really think Tom Cruise is the type to sit quietly and not defend himself if these statements werent true? And he never did defend himself except to have his reps make a statement before court proceedings that it was ‘amicable’ and mutually agreed. Rubbish!! Wasn’t he working with Penelope Cruz who pcoincidentally became his next gf, right after the split?
I have to agree… We reap what we sow.
We all should be happy for Katie that she’s going to be rich now: Tom has lots of millions to share.
Katie Holmes may not of the same caliber/equal to that of her husband in her acting abilities but today she has certainly left a mark on Hollywood and the whole country for that matter just as big as his with the well planned, perfectly executed divorce settlement that she, her family and legal team obtained.
In a matter of days and weeks, Katie Holmes brought to a conclusion what could have been a very nasty, very public and protracted divorce. A feat that is rarely accomplished by even the most wealthy, educated and well known of celebrities who have access to any number of attorneys and resources in this country and even abroad.
By this one act she has demonstrated that divorce does not have to be this gut retching, horrific, devastating, crash and burn process that takes years to extract yourself from financially, emotionally and physically, which is how most people describe their divorce.
Instead she proved the importance of strategy and planning. Know what to expect, be well informed and have good advisers so that you make the right decisions at the right time and not lose focus of the end result.
A retired law enforcement officer and now a Divorce Coach, I hear all too often, too little, too late. How much would you have done differently in your divorce if you knew then what you know now is what is so often repeated when clients come to us late in the process.
I applaud Katie and her team, for planning and making good decisions that did not allow this to be drawn out.
I only remember how excited Tom was on Oprah’s show jumping on the couch. I am sorry for both of them. Divorce is never easy. It is painful and leave scarce.