I spoke with a woman the other day; she had been divorced for five years. She has not started dating again, has no social life to speak of and still talks incessantly about her marriage, divorce and ex.
When I asked why she had not started dating again, she responded with, "I haven't gotten over my divorce yet." I could picture her, sitting by the fire, cat on her lap waiting to "get over" her divorce.
If you, like my friend are waiting to get over your divorce, I have a suggestion. Why not get on with your life instead. Stop focusing on the pain and a time in the future when there will be no more pain, get up, get out and start living again.
With any luck you've learned a lot about yourself through the process of divorce. Take what you've learned and begin to rebuild your life. I promise you, the distraction of living fully and completely day-to-day will go a long way in helping you "get over" the divorce.