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Divorce Tip: Making the Most of the Attorney/Client Relationship

By December 11, 2012

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1. Hire an attorney based on the kind of divorce you want. If you are smart you will want a conflict free divorce. This means hiring an attorney who does not have a reputation for being adversarial.

2. Have a list of questions ready when you interview attorneys. You will need to be able to discuss basic information like, income of you and your spouse, any assets you own together or separately so the attorney will have questions for you also. Go in with the information needed to answer those questions.

3. Don't contract to work with an attorney until you have been informed of fees and payment schedules. Attorneys charge for their time, you will want to pay for that time, on time.

4. Don't be a nuisance. If your attorney is handling your case in a timely manner, leave your attorney alone to do his/her job. You don't need to call constantly informing your attorney of every small detail. Your attorney isn't interested in anything other than the legal aspects of your divorce. Calling and reporting every offense you feel your spouse makes against you will quickly turn your attorney off.

5. Don't keep information from your attorney. Your attorney can't be fully prepared to properly handle your case if you are hiding information.

6. Keep a copy of every document you give your attorney. Request a copy of every document your attorney files with the court. Store these documents in a safe place.

7. Don't expect too much from your attorney. An attorney can't promise results, he/she can only make an educated guess at how your case will end. The divorce process is guided by state laws and human negotiations. Most who go through a divorce come away feeling like they have lost. There is only so much an attorney can do when it comes to getting you what you want out of the divorce.

8. The outcome of your divorce can depend on how you behave during the divorce. If you choose to behave badly don't blame your attorney if you end up walking away from your divorce worse for the wear.

December 18, 2012 at 12:14 pm
(1) samson says:

If there is significant $ involved in your settlement, make sure you understand what is about to happen to you. Many divorce attorneys want to do a good job for you but they also want to make a lot of $. Meaning they will lawyer over minor points and create much documentation that is superfluous and you pay extra $ with nothing gained than making the other divorce attorney happy and you and your soon to be ex ending up with much less and arguing about minor points that evoke emotions. Manage your attorney. It got to the point with mine that I would not let them communicate with opposing counsel without my approval. When I did this my divorce ended quickly with much less pain and the dollar outflow to the attys dropped dramatically.

January 1, 2013 at 7:49 pm
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