I often work with divorcing couples who have found themselves in a highly emotional situation. A lot of the conflict these couples face is caused by adversarial attorneys who have taken away control they have over their divorce.
What is an already painful situation can be turned into a battle royal in the hands of the wrong attorney. A divorce attorney can be quite motivated to encourage conflict between couples during the divorce process. One motivating factor; the more conflict there is the longer it will take a couple to finalize their divorce. The longer it takes to finalize the divorce the more the divorce attorney will earn.
Anyone who goes through a divorce has a choice; they can allow a divorce attorney to determine whether or not the divorce becomes malignant with anger and conflict or they can pull the reigns in and hold their attorney accountable if things get out of control.
Remember, you hire a divorce attorney which makes you the person in charge of what happens during your divorce.