I received an email the other day from a man whose wife verbally abuses him. He and his wife have two children, a home and a 12 year history together. He is worried about what divorce will mean for his children, he is concerned about losing his home but most of all he longs for his wife's behavior toward him to change. That change would mean him being able to save his family.
His question to me was, "I don't know where to turn, what do I do?"
What a great question! Who hasn't been there, stuck in a bad situation and wondering which way to turn?
What do you do, when you don't know what to do?
In such situations I try to have faith and trust in myself to do the right thing. To let go of my need to know all the whys, whens and hows and to trust in something deeper than my own anxiety and level of stress.
For me, doing something that is right for me and all involved comes with being calm and clear headed. Divorce is not a decision one should make when emotionally wrapped around the axle and viewing the situation through anything other than a clear lens.