I'm acquainted with a woman whose husband is cheating. He met a woman in a public place who was in distress. He offered her assistance and she took more than was offered, or more than was offered at that particular moment. I guess you could say he ended up giving her all he had to offer.
He disclosed his affair to his wife and promised to end it with the other woman. Fast forward a few weeks and the wife decides she is going to make sure he has ended the relationship. He was working a lot of over-time and this caused her to be suspicious.
One day when he was "at work" she dropped by for lunch. When she found that he was off that day she cruised by the other woman's home. And, yes, there he was. All hell broke loose!
There was an ugly confrontation between the three of them. The wife then gets on the cell phone and calls all their children, crying and sobbing she fills them in on the details of their fathers "detestable" behavior.
Within a few days the children were no longer speaking to their father. The father had moved out of the marital home and in with the other woman. My friend spends her days crying under the covers and has no insight into how her actions took a bad situation and made it worse.
Do you suspect your spouse of cheating? Do you know he has cheated and want to make sure the affair has ended? Are you thinking about spying on your spouse to try to confirm your suspicions? There are things you should take into consideration before you begin your quest to find out if your spouse is cheating or continuing to cheat.
First, are you ready for the conflict that will occur when your spouse finds out you have been spying on him/her? You should expect your spouse to be upset, to accuse you of not trusting them and to deny their own actions in favor of trying to make you feel guilty for spying. A cheater will put responsibility for their actions point blank off onto you. Spying and chasing only gives them ammunition in blaming you instead of taking responsibility.
Secondly, certain forms of "spying" are illegal. There are state and federal laws that regulate the use of surveillance equipment, recording devices and Internet software. You should become familiar with your state's laws before you go full steam ahead with any sort of covert spying behavior.
Lastly, you should consider the consequences of spying and the possibility that, like my friend tracking and following a cheating spouse only compounds the problem.