Divorce information, that is what we all want once the decision to divorce is made. We research divorce laws, support guidelines and spousal support. Based on statistics very few search for divorce information for parents. For some reason our children’s needs during their parent’s divorce takes a backseat.
I’ve heard many people say that children are “resilient.” To a certain degree I agree. Children and adults are both resilient. There isn’t much we can’t make our way through as long as we are surrounded by loved ones and don’t have the very foundation of our security destroyed.
The thing that adults who believe children are resilient and will handle the divorce of parents is the dismissal of the fact that divorce destroys the very foundation of a child’s life. Children feel secure in the world because they have a family unit and a home base.
Divorce tears apart the family unit and destroys the home base. It leaves children who are unable to intellectualize and rationalize what is happening in their lives adrift in a sea of negative emotions.
In this article you will find links to information that will offer advice to parents of children who are also going through the divorce process.
The Decision to Divorce:
Now that you’ve made the decision to divorce, how will you inform your children? How will you handle their reaction to your divorce? Do you have a plan for meeting their emotional needs?
- How to Talk to Your Children About Divorce
- Meeting Your Child’s Need for Security
- What Role Can Your Child’s School Play in Your Divorce?
- Five Things a Child of Divorce Needs
- Myths Surrounding Children and Divorce
Co-Parenting During and After Divorce:
Studies have proven that the relationship between parents determines how well a children is able to navigate the emotional process of a divorce. Being able to co-parent without allowing your conflict with your ex to interfere is one of the most positive things you can do for your child.
A Parent’s Obligation to Their Child:
During the divorce process your first obligation is to your child. Your divorce attorney won’t discuss with you the emotional impact of your divorce on your child. You will be encouraged to focus on marital assets, spousal support and who gets the house.
Not once will you be encouraged to focus on what your divorce means to your child. It is up to you to make sure that you are meeting your obligations to your child. An obligation that comes before any concerns you may have over the legal aspects of divorce.
- Parental Obligations During Divorce: Part I
- Parental Obligations During Divorce: Part II
- Top Ten Books for Parenting Through Divorce
Divorce leaves scars on anyone who has to experience it during their lifetime. As the parent it is up to you how deep those scars are for your child and what effect your divorce will have on your child. Whether or not your divorce has life long negative effects on your child is up to you and you alone.
