Divorce and Loneliness
Loneliness after divorce, if you’ve been through a divorce you’ve felt that loneliness. Some deal with loneliness after divorce better than others. If you are someone having a hard time with loneliness this article is for you.
I’ve been divorced for 10 years. During those 10 years I’ve been busy building a career and raising two boys. All things that kept me from feeling lonely.
When you are focused on building a career and earning enough money to make ends meet you don’t have much time to think about how alone you are. Having children around helps cushion the depth of any loneliness I felt. My boys were great company! With my work and them my life seemed complete. Lonely was not something I felt often.
Things have changed for me recently though and I’m more aware of the fact that I’m alone and those feelings of loneliness creep in at times. My career is flourishing and both my boys are out on their own and I’m left, for the first time to deal with me, myself and I.
When you go through a divorce and lose the company and support of a spouse or, in my case finally settle down alone after years of focusing on career and children, you may feel the loss sharply.
What can you do deal with the loss and loneliness you feel as a result? Below are a few tips that have helped me:
- Get a pet, a dog or cat, even a hamster. I have three dogs and have found that the unconditional love they offer helps lessen the loneliness I feel. I’m never alone if I have my three furry friends around.
Since I love animals so much I’ve recently started volunteering at a local animal shelter. For 4 hours a week I’m amongst other people, building new relationships and doing something that gets me outside my problems and myself.
- If you aren’t an animal person think about volunteering at a local hospital, nursing home or homeless shelter. Doing so will not only help relieve your loneliness it will also help the community.
- Check out MeetUp.com. This is a great online resource if you are looking for others in your area with similar interests. You can find a local book club, kindle group, scrap booking group, and cooking group or maybe even a divorce support group. Take a look; you will be surprised how many people out there are looking for the company of others.
- Distract yourself! Keeping your mind occupied and off the fact that you are now alone is good medicine. It may not be the most fun you’ve ever had but, tackling housework if at home is better than sitting around ruminating over how alone you are.
Take up a new hobby. If you’ve always wanted to learn how to paint, join a watercolor class and give it a go. If you want to stay fit and cure your loneliness think about taking Tennis lessons or joining a Karate class. The idea is to fill your day with activities that will keep your mind occupied and your life full.