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How To Cope With Legal Issues During Divorce


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During divorce, legal issues and emotional issue are entirely separate things. Legal issues, no matter how stressful must be executed properly or the emotional stress will only be compounded. Below are some tips on how to help make the legal aspects of a divorce run more smoothly.


Difficulty: Easy

Time Required: Depends on the individuals involved

Here's How:

  1. Educate yourself.

    It is wise to educate yourself in regard to the rules and laws pertaining to divorce in your state of residence. Valuable information is available via the internet, your local library, from your attorney and talking to others who have gone through a divorce. You should always use good judgement when sifting through what all you learn. Make sure it comes from good sources, is accurate and up – to – date.

  2. Find the right attorney.

    Divorce is a formal legal process, and people going through divorce are wise to hire a state-licensed attorney who specializes in divorce. While an attorneys service are not inexpensive, attorneys are in the best position, to advise divorcing people how best to navigate the divorce process while advocating for their rights.

  3. Do your homework.

    Get a head start on the process by getting documents related to marital property, income taxes and debts together as soon as possible. Have real estate and other property such as boats, jewelry and automobiles appraised professionally. Such documentation will prove to be critical if your spouse denies the property exists or attempts to devalue the property.

  4. Construct a specific plan.

    To avoid the pitfalls of going to court, try to work out a settlement with your spouse. Come to an agreement on such things as property division, splitting debts, spousal support and child custody. Having. Come to an agreement on where the child will live, who will care for the child the majority of the time, how visitation will be arranged and how conflicts will be negotiated. A judge is more likely to endorse and detailed custody agreement.

  5. Be civil and polite.

    Honesty, civility and politeness are important. Character is defined by the way we handle ourselves in stressful situations. Hold yourself to high standards as far as your conduct. Especially if there are children involved. Always show respect for the mother/father of your children.

    In addition, if you have to go to court, being honest and on your best behavior will expedite the process and enhance the court’s opinion of you as a responsible, reliable adult. An opinion, which may prove critical, should the court step in to impose a decision regarding custody or property division.

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