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Verbal & Emotional Abuse

verbal and emotional abuse in a marriage is such a covert form of domestic violence and abuse that many people aren’t able to recognize they are a victim. A spouse may have a feeling that something is wrong. They may feel stressed out; a sense of depression; anxiety but they can’t quite identify what is causing those feelings.

16 Sure Fire Signs Your Spouse is Emotionally Abusive

How Can Someone Identify and Respond to Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse is the use of words to punish and control a spouse or partner. Screaming, yelling, cursing are all signs of a verbally abusive relationship.

Are You a Victim of Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse is crippling. It robs a person of their self-esteem, the ability to think rationally, confidence in themselves and their independence and autonomy.

Is Screaming and Yelling Verbal Abuse?
My husband is constantly screaming and yelling. The least little thing sets him off. The other day I didnt load the dishwasher the way he thought it should be. For 30 minutes, I had to listen to him screaming and yelling about how he is the only one here who knows how to do things the right way.

Is Name Calling Verbal Abuse?
No, you are not wrong. Your wife is verbally abusing you. Name calling hurts, belittles or puts another person is a form of verbal abuse.

Using Threats To Intimidate
When someone uses threats to intimidate they are attempting to break your will and take your power away from you. The intimidator tries to create fear in their victim. This is a form of covert abuse. There is no physical violence, just words meant to destroy you psychologically.</

Using Hurtful Words to Shame
When a spouse uses hurtful words to shame we feel invalidated, disrespected and diminished. If your spouse is using words to shame you, he/she is attempting to dominate you and more than likely you are internalizing and believing the things your spouse says.

Verbal Manipulation as Abuse
When your spouse communicates with you, what is the goal of his/her communication? When married to a verbal abuser the goal is usually to gain control over you. The objective is to put you in the role of someone who meets his/her needs.

Tell Your Story of Verbal Abuse
A master at verbal abuse can damage your self-esteem while, at the same time, appear to care deeply for you. The use of words to punish is a covert attempt to control and regardless of how loving your spouse may appear, verbal abuse is wrong and can be just has harmful as physical abuse.

Using The Family Court System to Abuse a Spouse
According to Dr. Huffer, legal abuse syndrome (LAS) is a form of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It is a psychic injury, not a mental illness. It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. Abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in...

Stonewalling in Marriage Relationships
Men are more prone to stonewall in a relationship because they feel overwhelmed when a wife wants to “talk feelings” or “discuss problems.” We often hear men accuse their wives of “nagging” which, more often than not is in response to their stonewalling her and her need to discuss marital problems.

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