You have to admit, Christmas is a special and important time of the year. It is especially important if you are married and have children. Christmas as a divorced parent can be just as special if not more special if you put forth a little effort.
It’s all the memories attached to Christmas that make it the most trying time after a divorce. My first post-divorce Christmas was something I was dreading and found almost impossible to get through emotionally. Christmas as a divorced parent was new territory for me and I had no idea how to navigate my way through all the negative emotions. I had Children though and my feelings had to be put on the back burner. If not put on the back burner, at least dealt with in a way that did not interfere with my children’s enjoyment of the season.
Christmas for our family had always been about our immediate family. It was my husband, my children and I and we had built many family traditions through the years. I knew that if I were going to survive I had to do something different that first Christmas after the divorce. I had to do things that would distract our attention away from what we no longer had and build new traditions that were as joyful if not more joyful than the old ones. That is when I came up with my five-step plan of survival:
Make them a part of your Christmas celebration. You’ve heard the old saying, “the more the merrier.” It’s true during the first post-divorce Christmas, the more people you are around the better your mood will be. People are a great distraction from the past and if you do have a down moment you will be surrounded by people who love you and can help pull you out of your funk.
The biggest gift you and your spouse can give your children at Christmas and any other time of the year is your survival. If you are able to take lemons and make lemonade it will mean that, no matter the season, your children will get what they need most. Two parents who are able to put their children's need for peace and contentment first. So, here is wishing you Peace on Earth at Christmas and every other day of the year.