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How to Survive Your First Post Divorce Christmas


I remember my first post divorce Christmas. It wasn't pleasant for me but having children meant focusing on their needs instead of my own. In doing that we all managed to have a good Christmas.

What if a person doesn't have children to focus on? How does a newly single person make sure they have a good or even great Christmas post divorce? Below are a few suggestions that will keep your single self from sitting home brooding during Christmas. Follow these suggestions and you will have a Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday Season.

How to Survive Your First Post Divorce Christmas:
  • Don't worry about what your ex is doing. Obsessing over what he/she might be doing gets in the way of you having a happy Christmas experience.
  • Table any anger, regret or jealousy you may feel due to your divorce. You can bring all those negative feelings out after Christmas. Believe me, they will be there but you don't need them messing with your Holiday fun.
  • Accept as man party invitations as possible. Someone who is out partying has no time to brood or feel lonely.
  • If you don't have a party to go to, throw your own Christmas party. Host a party where everyone brings a dish or bottle of wine. That keeps down the work for you and also gives you the opportunity to spend time having a good time. Better than focusing on divorce issues!
  • If you don't feel like partying, how about a vacation? Imagine spending Christmas on a tropical island, lying on a beach with nothing to worry about but your tan lines. If you can't afford a tropical island visit family who live out of town. It will get you out of your every day surroundings and the opportunity to spend Christmas with people who love and will support you.
  • If you daily life is frantic and chaotic maybe what you need is some alone time. Divorce is stressful, add to that the stress of an overwhelming career and "me time" may be exactly what you need in order to have a Merry Christmas. Stock up on your favorite foods and beverages, schedule a day at a spa and don't forget to indulge in a few extravagant gifts for yourself.
  • Spend the Holiday Season volunteering for those less fortunate. Nothing does the heart and soul better than giving to those in need. Every community has a homeless shelter and they are all appreciative of any offer the help. Get outside yourself and your problems and help others deal with their problems. Doing so will help you realize how fortunate you are.

The secret to having a Happy Holiday Season post divorce is distraction. Get out, get busy and get your mind off the pain caused by your divorce.

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