Your midlife crisis spouse needs therapy. Don’t expect that to happen! Your spouse is going to stubbornly think there is nothing wrong with him/her, that you are the problem and if not for you their lives would be smooth sailing. You are going to need a therapist. Someone who can listen to your concerns and help you work through the confusion caused by your spouse’s odd behaviors.
Family and friends are great for support. They are not that great when it comes to being objective about what you should do about your midlife crisis spouse and your marriage. Those who love us don’t want to see us hurt. Because of that, they tend to advise you to leave or strike back or get revenge. Go to friends and family for support and comfort but when it comes to taking advice find a therapist who is objective and trained in dealing with such issues.
If your spouse dives into the deep end of the midlife crisis pool you have two choices open to you. If he/she becomes involved with another person, starts spending money like there is no tomorrow or becomes abusive it is up to you what action you take. You have choices, either stay and hope they and you survive the midlife crisis or leave, divorce him/her and start building a new life for yourself.
The thing to remember is, no matter which choice you make, you don’t have to allow your spouse to drag you down to their level. When dealing with a spouse who is going through a midlife crisis it is best to always take the high road. Don’t do anything you will look back and feel shame over. In other words just because your spouse is a victim of a midlife crisis doesn’t mean you have to be also.
