Emotional affairs occur primarily via the Internet and phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to add this behavior to your list of suspicions.
Below are behaviors to be aware of:
- Your spouse turns off his/her cell phone when in your presence.
- Your spouse leaves the room to take cell phone calls.
- Your spouse becomes upset if you answer his/her cell phone.
- Your spouse becomes defensive if you ask him/her about the above behaviors.
Most spouses engaged in an affair consider their cell phone to be a necessary part of keeping the affair going. It allows them to keep in touch with the other man/other woman at virtually all times. They can talk to their lover while driving to work, at work, driving home in the evenings. They can talk to them while shopping, pumping gas or taking the dog for a walk. Thanks to the cell phone cheaters are now able to connect more deeply, more quickly.
What can you do if you become suspicious of your spouses cell phone use?
- Check the cell phone history for incoming and outgoing calls.
- Check the cell phone for incoming and outgoing text messages.
- Check the contacts list for any names you are not familiar with.
- Check the recent calls, missed calls and dialed calls for suspicious numbers.
- Check the cell phone bill for any unusual usage.
- Insist that the cell phone bill be in your name and your spouse’s name. Doing this gives you the right to request a copy of the cell phone bill should you become suspicious.