A Guy/Girl is a woman who needs to take on the responsibilities of both a woman and a man in the same day, in the same body, in the same household. This is challenging and at any given moment can cause you to either weep like a woman or curse like a man...or do both simultaneously which always makes for a great scene.
Plan to have a split personality in every minute of the day. Expect any combination of the following emotions:
- Happy - Sad
- Thrilled -Miserable
- Hopeful -Hopeless
- Motivated – Slacker
- Scared – Empowered
Expect the volume on the above to pump up when you are hormonal.
You will get everything done that needs to be done for everybody who needs you. When the chips are down that is what women, somehow manage to do.
This new “Guy/Girl” lifestyle will have you doing double duty all day long. If you haven't already figured it out for yourself, it is exhausting and often overwhelming which brings me back to the weeping and the cursing part. This is to be expected.
There is actually a bright ending to this column - keep reading.
You will try to make more money and then have to chop it up in so many ways that you will never have enough left to buy yourself anything. When you spend money, it will be for things you need and for other people whose needs come before your needs.
As a “Guy/Girl” you will:
- You will say yes to more obligations out of guilt than you ever imagined.
- You will be solely in charge of wiping the counter...and then wiping a tear.
- You will dress like a lady for an event then open your own car door.
- You will ask for directions, drive yourself, and fill your own tank.
- You will hit the wrong button on the remote and then try for hours to get the picture back on by yourself.
You will have to handle things you never handled before and yes , you will get very good at all of this. You will become extremely capable of just about anything you put your mind to. After this - you will be capable of more than you ever realized.
On occasion you will find yourself alone...wondering who the hell you are, struggling to make sense of past choices and decisions that got you here in this strange place where you have to be responsible for so much. You need a break and sometimes you wish someone would just give you a hug, (preferably someone sexy who also needs a hug)
It is at this solo “Guy/Girl” moment you need to realize that you are not the only one Please know you are not the only one... that sunnier days are ahead and that events that force change are often necessary no matter how difficult and uncomfortable to lead you to a better place. You are capable of anything and everything. It's time to become the new and improved and much more capable version of you!
Just promise yourself to get a manicure ...its the only body part you can see all day long without a mirror that will remind you - you are in fact a girl!
Debbie Nigro
