Life after divorce can be as difficult as the divorce process itself. You have suffered a major loss and the healing process will continue, for some well after the ink is dry on your divorce settlement agreement.
Your marriage, family and role as husband, wife, father or mother was your Plan A. Most of us don’t have a Plan B but that is what divorce calls for…the ability to come up with and put into action “Plan B.”
The key to doing this is acceptance of your present reality. You are no longer married; you are no longer someone’s husband or wife. What are you going to do with that reality? You can fight reality or accept reality and get on with your new life after divorce.
My hope is that this article helps you define your “Plan B” and move into acceptance. Divorce is not only an ending, it is also a beginning. An opportunity to take life and make it what you desire.
Accepting an Unwanted Divorce:
Few things are worse than the lack of control and emotional pain one feels when a spouse decides to leave a marriage. Questions about why go unanswered. Fears of what the future holds are constant. And the loss of the one you love is unbearably painful. You can go from feeling hopelessness to hopeful and looking forward to life after divorce.
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- How to Bounce Back From an Unwanted Divorce
- How to Heal the Pain of Divorce
Finding Your “Plan B” and Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce:
To “move on” after divorce you need to be open to new experiences, new ways of looking at things and new relationships. You have to take an active role in rebuilding your life, not sit and wait for a new life to come to you.
- Three Skills that will Help You Rebuild Your Life After Divorce
- Tips to Help You Move on After Divorce
- How to Move on and Rebuild Your Life After Divorce
- A Formula for Getting Back to Great
Going From Stay at Home Mom to Working Full Time:
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the average woman’s family income drops by 37% after divorce. In other words women suffer more financially than men do from divorce. If you are a woman thinking about divorce I suggest you do some serious financial planning before filing.
If you are a woman already divorced, I have some suggestions that will hopefully help you survive the loss of income and get your finances in order.
- How to Support Yourself After a Divorce
- Tips for Returning to the Job Force After Divorce
- Budgeting Money After a Divorce
Get the Most Out of Being Single:
When someone loses a spouse through death or divorce, that loss can be devastating. A period of mourning follows, even in the case of divorce, because of not fulfilling the dreams they had for the relationship. However there comes a time when life has to begin again, and many singles feel lost in making this transition.
- How to Adjust to Being Single Again
- Tips for Single Parents
- Five Challenges Facing Divorced, Single Moms
Moving on after divorce, no matter how strong a person you are, is challenging. I know from experience that divorce knocks the wind out of your sails regardless of who’s at fault or what the circumstances are. I also know, from experience that life does begin again and if you make the most of your “Plan B” life will be more than you dreamed it could.