Now here is an exercise that will make an impact. Read this piece then get up from the computer and go look in your underwear drawer, then come back and read it again. I'm going to take an educated guess that most women are being held up by their underwear in more ways than one.
Seriously, when was the last time you took a good look at your life from the perspective of your undergarments and lingerie? It's amazing how many items in there are tied to your life before divorce and need to go.
The last thing most women who've been divorced spend money on is themselves, mainly because there's a lot less money and it has to do a lot more work. There are so many other things that take precedence: babysitters, dentists, car repairs, after school activities, freakin’ sneakers, the drug store, food, gas, bills, etc. Underwear rarely makes the list unless it’s for other people!
However, your new lust/love life depends on you feeling your best as a woman and nothing works more quickly to make you feel better about yourself than when you treat yourself like the sensual, sexual woman you know you are. To refresh your memory that you are in fact a WOMAN not just a machine, here are a few underwear tips:
Undergarments that have to GO!
- Any pair of underwear that looks like a small Volkswagen cover.
- Any thongs and G-strings that tug enough to give you a potential brain tumor.
- Any too tight bras that feel like a sustained Heimlich Maneuver.
- Any underwear that’s still “new," but unworn because it hits the wrong angle.
- Anything with worn elastic or under-wires popping out that could stab someone.
- Any lingerie you received at your bridal shower or wore in a previous passionate affair.
Ladies, throw these out now!
I bet you don't even know why you still have them. It’s okay, you're not alone…
Undergarments That You Need To Go Out and Buy
(Four Categories)
The Basics:
- Get yourself a couple of new bras that you like, at least one beige or white and one black.
- Purchase some matching colored underwear that doesn't show lines through your pants. Jockey has a silky light Hi-Cut no panty lines style that I love in all colors, plus a leopard print. You gotta have some leopard too! Go as sexy as you feel comfortable.
- Get one new strapless bra in each color or just get black to start, preferably one that creates nice cleavage. Yes, cleavage can be bought.
Sexy/Pretty:
- Go for a little color or a pattern you typically wouldn't buy for yourself and start to wear these pieces for no reason.
- Get two sets: You can get them inexpensively at discount designer stores or go for your lungs at an upscale boutique…whatever you can swing so you can start swingin’ again.
"Makes Me Look Thin At Any Cost”:
- Some kind of long leg slimmer that smoothes things out under tight pants for days when you’re bloated after eating half a pizza-pie or a lot of Chinese food. Be prepared to take these off and ditch them in a planter if you get caught in an unexpected heated moment.
- Leggs’ Body Beautiful Smoothers offers inexpensive undergarments and they’re available at pharmacy chains or go to a department store and splurge for some Spanx!
- One bra slip with a strap that sucks you in.
- One bra slip with no strap that sucks you in.
VaVaVoom:
- Buy yourself something outrageous as soon as you get a free moment by yourself. Think “Inner Bombshell” and stash it away! It doesn’t matter what kind of figure you have, just make sure you control the lighting when the moment for modeling arrives.
Trust me these items aren’t available at the gas station Stop ‘n Shop at the last minute when you’re rushing to take advantage of a potential romantic moment.
Forget the reason for wearing nice underwear that your mother gave you. My reason: You never know when you might get hit by an "opportunity." Wink.
Best,
Debbie
