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Steps to Take When Preparing For Divorce


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Be on Your Best Behavior

This final step in preparing for divorce may seem silly to some. I hope that it goes without saying and that anyone reading this understands that just because you are divorcing doesn’t mean it is time to start partying and living like you have no responsibilities.

Divorce can mean being put under a microscope. If your case goes to court you don’t want to put ammunition in the hands of your spouse. Don’t give him anything he can use against you!

That means, no dating, no partying, no hanging out till all hours of the morning. If custody is an issue in your case you need to make your children your number one priority…which they should already be. Don’t act like a good mother/father, be one. This is an especially stressful time for your children and they need you to stay focused on meeting their needs.

If you become sexually frustrated, get over it. Sex is a luxury, not a necessity. Once you are divorced you can have all the sex you want. Until then don’t let your desire for sex put you in a situation a judge might view as questionable.

Spend time with friends, family and your children. Stay close to home, take care of yourself physically and emotionally, attend to your spiritual life and most of all, whatever you do, be above reproach. Behave yourself!

Come to think of it, this isn’t bad advice for anyone, whether you are going through a divorce or not.

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