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Divorce Guide for Men

A Step by Step Divorce Guide for Men


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Divorce is usually a one-sided decision which catches a husband off guard. Very rarely do couple sit down and come to the decision to end their marriage together. In most situations a husband is left to struggle with the consequences of his wife’s decision to file for a divorce. It isn’t easy to deal with the admission by a wife that she no longer wants to be in the marriage.

Such rejection is a huge blow to a man’s emotional equilibrium. He is left with sleepless nights, thoughts of no longer fathering his children on a daily basis and fears of not being able to protect his legal rights in a Family Court system that seem to favor women and mothers during the divorce process.

This article will help you by giving advice from a man and father’s point of view. You will find links to articles that will guide you through commonly faced problems men deal with during the divorce process.

Coping With the Emotional Aspects of Divorce:

The process of divorce is a legal one. There is no place in that legal process for negative emotions. The most important thing a man can do is deal with the emotional aspect of divorce in a way that doesn’t allow them to interfere with the legal issues.

In other words, you need a clear head, a thought process that is led by logic not anger or fear. The only way to keep emotions from co-mingling with the legal process is to learn good coping strategies. Don’t bury your emotions, don’t deny feelings, work through them so that you can be at your best when fighting for your legal divorce rights. Below are links to article that you will find helpful.

Navigating the Legal Process of Divorce:

So, where do you start once you’ve dealt with issues of the heart? With a divorce attorney of course! And, being a man you are going to need a good divorce attorney. You’ve got a lot to consider and a lot to protect. BUT, if you have a good divorce attorney, one who has good negotiating skills you can protect your role as a father and all those assets you and your wife have acquired through the years. Take a look below for articles that will help you hire a divorce attorney that will advocate for you.

Protecting Your Child Custody Rights During Divorce:

As I said above, the Family Court system can be biased against women when it comes to child custody. Change is afoot though and fathers who are willing to go the extra mile are gaining more time with their children after divorce. More and more fathers are gaining 50/50 custody and in some cases legal custody of their children.

Below are links to articles about shared parenting and custody after divorce. It is imperative that every father realize the importance of their role in a child’s life. Your wife may want a divorce, that doesn’t mean you have to become a visitor in your child’s life. When hiring an attorney make sure he/she understands your desire to gain as much custody as possible and is willing to go to bat for you in court.

What to Expect During the Divorce Process:

The steps you will go through during the divorce process will depend upon the district you live in. Every state has differing divorce laws and every county has its own procedure. Your divorce attorney will be and should be willing to walk you through what the divorce process will be like for you. Below is a link to an article that will give you an idea of what to expect in most cases.

Understanding the Division of Marital Assets:

When dividing property during divorce a court will first determine if the property is marital or non-marital property. This can be a very complicated process and is dealt with according to your state's laws. Below, you will find articles that address marital property and how it is distributed during divorce.

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