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Husband Leaves Wife During Breast Cancer Treatment

Share Your Story: How I Survived My Divorce

By Annette Kelly

How many years were you married?

We were married 31 years.

Did you want a divorce?

No

Describe the break-up of your marriage.

I was in the middle of treatment for breast cancer when my husband of 31 years came to me and said, "I have not been happy for a long time and I am going to be leaving. You've had chemo and you will be fine." I had just had reconstruction surgery 5 days prior. Our youngest daughter had just gone off to college. I was alone and scared.

What helped you cope with your divorce?

Ativan. Seriously....and an incredible group of friends. I did need to spend some time alone, at the beginning. I was pretty much in shock and needed to process everything. My friends were very concerned and tried to get me to go out for dinner, etc. but I needed to take take the time to heal. I went into therapy twice a week.

Lessons Learned

  • I guess I would say...when spending time with the attorney/attorneys, have someone you trust with you. I wasn't in a good state of mind to make decisions and as a result, I made some mistakes.
  • Don't send caustic emails.
  • Get into some kind of therapy.

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