How many years were you married?
We were married for 25 years.
Did you want a divorce?
I did not want the divorce!
Describe the break-up of your marriage.
Past baggage that never was exposed by the root....always covering it up.....
What helped you cope with your divorce?
I got my spiritual life in order, just because your marriage fails doesn't mean you’re a failure. I took the time and energy to apply myself in books, counseling, and a good support group. I surrounded myself with healthy people that have been through a divorce because they will help and encourage you through this painful time.
I got back in my church and continued to learn more about family, marriage, and relationships. We have to understand that this is all choice and I wanted to learn from this ugly experience so that I could be of help to others that may experience this crisis.
Take this season of your life and the proper time to examine yourself, because you will eventually be involved in a new relationship and you want the next one to work out for the best. For the past year and a half I have had the privilege of leading a divorce care group and am able to share my experience with them to help them in their recovery process.
Lessons Learned
- The most important lesson I learned was to take the proper time to address all issues that I brought to the relationship for the worst.....[in other words, what role did I play in the relationship that helped it fail]
- I had to examine me not the other person, that’s when the light turned on for me. If we don’t get to the root of our issues we will take them right into something new and destroy that relationship as well.
