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My Post-Divorce Dating Rules

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By diane2413

Dating Do's

Be honest with the guy without giving too much info too soon.

Know what kind of relationship you want- are you dating for fun and socialization or are you interested in a commitment and surround yourself with someone who shares your goals.

Take things as slow as possible even though this can be hard when things are exciting and new.

Look for cues to what your date is interested in both for conversation and to give you an idea as to whether the relationship will progress.

Decide ahead of time how much physical contact you want so you know what to say during a date. This will help to avoid regrets.

Dating Don'ts

If you have kids, don't tell them anything until you are sure the relationship is going to stick around long term.

Don't go too far physically until your emotions catch up.

Don't forget about what is important to you in the heat of the moment or just because a guy is into you.

Don't forget to be honest with yourself and what you are looking for. Don't forget to trust yourself and your instincts.

Lessons Learned

  • I think I have the right guy and have learned when things do not seem right to let things go and take time for yourself. I dated right away post divorce and I was meeting guys who were not right for me. I liked the attention and had an ego boost but felt badly later on. I decided to stop dating until I was sure I was ready and after two years have found a wonderful man who shares so much of what I want and am looking for. It is different now because when it feels right, you do not need to rush. You can take your time and just enjoy things.

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