Did your attorney make mistakes during your divorce?
I was forced into submitting to orders to simply receive support, my attorney did not fight for me because my ex held the "purse strings". My divorce attorney,s paralegals words verbatim.
My case was of extreme prejudice, the attorneys ignored the FACTS and the courts allowed it.
Were you the victim of an unethical judge?
I feel that I was a victim of a Lazy Judge. Possibly an unethical one as my Ex stated that prior to filing for our dissolution that he "had consulted with a female judge and learned of his rights" We had a female judge and he was granted several Ex-Parte Hearings without foundation while I was consistently denied.
I divorced at a political point that advocates for "Father's Rights" while I was a Stay-at-home mom and my ex fought for custody.
I was a victim of an ex who abused the family court system to continue to control the circumstances with false declarations, lies and accusations, vilifying me in the courts.
What needs to change in the Family Court System?
Remove the attorneys if only one party can afford an attorney, as they are only there to continue to argue issues that could not be resolved in the marriage. The billable hours are only to drag out circumstances that should have most likely been dissolved many years prior to couples getting to the point of divorce.
Mediation and orders of disclosure need to be made in it's entirety by the court. Attorneys should not be allowed to motion for trial until all mediation has been reported and exhausted.
The Family Court System is inundated and does not make concessions when one party affords an attorney to simply prevent providing to their spouse monies to live and the attorneys advice of "rights" that just because one can doesn't mean they should. Code of ethics does not prevail in the Family Court System.
Attorneys should be held accountable when their clients requests are clearly sabotage of opposing client. When it is evident that one spouse is creating intense hardship on another there should be a Marshal of the courts to put a halt to hideous, frivolous "lawsuits" filed against a spouse.
Lessons Learned
- The Attorneys are the problem in Family Law. They often can not distinguish when their clients are lying and when they can, attorneys need to be held accountable and held legally responsible to report their clients to the Judge.
- An attorney knows if they have a client who is abusing and using the court system to further "abuse a spouse".
- Bullying is overlooked in the Family Courts.
- The courts do not have resources for "stay-at -home" parents who simply can not afford legal assistance.
- One can vilify another without consequence in the Family Courts.
