how i found out the truth
- i searched her cellphone and found that she had been sleeping with the other person.
- —Guest Bob
Since I'm a moron
- Istuck it out w/my wife of 25yrs. she told me of the latest affair while on an all expense paid 2 week road trip(paid by me of course)w/her latest boy friend. I found out in an email after she finaly went to the police to answer the missing person I filied after 3 days of nothing from her. I didn't know if she was in a ditch, mangled up in her car, or playing hotel bingo w/homeless boyfriend. When she decided it's time to come home, right before Cristmas, 09. Long story short, she leaves me w/her grandkids takes my truck & goes to boyfriend, ditto the next day. 12/27 I go to jail (go figure, they frown on you hunting down boyfriends w/12ga pump in your possession.) I'm finding dating sites, facebook pages, all kinds of stuff that should make me wake the F%^k up & get out & I would except for 1 thing, and if anyone can help me here I'd appreciate it greatly, ve been w/my wife/girlfriend for over half my life, 27 years is a long time. How do you walk away from 27yrs?
- —Guest sosueme
Watch out for close friends
- I had a wife who was as loyal as one could be then a combination of factors lead her to have an emotional affair but our relationship is over. I had a friend move in due to troubles with his marriage and i got ill which affected my career. I expected sympathy after being with her for over 20 years but instead at the lowest point in my life she asked me for a separation agreement - i was shocked as we had been through alot over 20 years and she NEVER mentioned separation. So I did some checking around and she was texting my friend, arranging nights out so that she could be with my friend. what hurts the most is the deception --------she did not come to me and say "I have feelings for your friend" but left me in the dark and was more concerned with protecting my friend than telling me the truth. Now my friend has moved on but due to my wife's selfishness, our relationship is over. she is begging to stay with me but trust is gone,,,,,sad that 29 years of trust is gone over a fling - sad
- —Guest bigtone
Still In Shock...
- So I have been with my husband for 11 years. We have been married for five. I recently found out that he had been hanging out with a co-worker who he was training. Fastforward into the downward spiral of our marriage and I find out he has not only been hanging out with her but he has been texting her and calling her all hours of the night and day! We seperated a few months ago and I assumed be was living with his best friend. Turns out he was living with her! When I confronted him on it he denied he had any feelings for her. He said she was just a friend, she had a boyfriend (whom he was friends with too) and that she was there for him when I wasn't. He said he just bounced things about our relationship off of her. He also said that her boyfriend didn't have a problem with him talking to her all hours of the night..why should I? Was there even a boyfriend? He refused to show me the txt messages. Said she was there for him when I wasn't. I also found out she took him to a strip club.
- —Guest Don't Trust Ken R.!!
lies lies lies
- a friend of mine had came home from the army and was spending alot of time at my house. at the time it didnt hit me but he was spending all his time with my wife, after he left back for the army i went on my wifes email to find out he payed for a airline ticket for her to fly out and see him, she claimed it was nothing and wasnt gpoing to go but then the weekend of the trip she had to "go work in new hampshire" needless to say she lied and went on the trip and slept with him and lied about it until he called me and told me. we are back together only bcz my son just turned a yr old and he needs his daddy in his life but i dont see myself forgiving her for a long time
- —Guest john
evil one
- Not to get to much into it but i was rushed to er cause i have copd and i was intuebated found out later on the soon to be ex was running around with my so called best friend doing drugs and not even come to visit me. In all my 45 years i have never met someone so evil. I finally got the nerve to leave, because of my lung disease i was told by a good friend she was just hanging around hoping i would die to get her hands on my ssi I have no doubt she will get what she deserves one day
- —nuets
my 4 year old daughter
- I was washing my truck with the help of my 4 yr old daughter she said daddy mommy laid in the bed with a man I said what I had to stop playing and watching tv to go pee so I went up stairs and when I open the door they were in the bed needless to say that was in 07 I found out 11 months later by my daughter I was burning hot not that she cheated but at the fact she took her four yr old daughter with her kids say the darnest things
- —fandango19
Double Cheater
- I had to go out of town on loan for business. Before I went, I had serious talkds with my wife about me being gone for six months. I was allowed to fly home one weekend a month or fly her to my location for any extended period. When I was back home after the six months one of my friends slipped up during a conversation on affairs and said he didn't believe the rumor of my wife and the doctor she worked for. Long story short, several people believed they were having an affair. She denied it. I didn't believe her so I asked her to swear on a bible. She did. Ten years later, right after we bought a new house, she started acting strange to the point she refused seeing the counselor and filed for divorce. I moved out while she postponed the divorce. Six months later I stumbled upon a conversation that this doctor had divorced his wife around the time my wife started acting wierd. Long story short, she admitted the affair ten years earlier and the present one. Women can be evil
- —Guest Greg
Always trust your instincts
- My ex had @least 2 affairs in the 3yrs we were together. I started to suspect wrongdoing after 2yrs but I just couldn't place why. We still seemed MOSTLY ok but something was out of sorts. I attributed his behavior to stress @work + school + I knew he often went out to get a drink @night. He started getting flippant about where he'd be at night.The alarms were going off in my heart, but I thought I was overanalyzing everything. He kept assuring me everything was fine. A few of our mutual friends began telling me they would see him @parties doing very questionable things--he would leave w/other women, he was caught alone in a room w/one of my "friends" undressing, etc. These people started avoiding me + he refused to take me anywhere he knew they'd be. A few wks later a girl I worked w/told me plainly she'd gone out w/him the night before (she, too, was married!). I left w/much anger+sadness. He was a coward about it. I left w/much anger+sadness. ALWAYS trust your gut instincts.
- —Guest Shelly
Cheating
- My husband of 38 years (he's 60) is cheating with a woman he went to High school with. They got together while planning their reunions. I read his texting and boy did they ever enjoy blaming everything on me. I am going to get a divorce. and even though I am worried financially, I'm ready to get away from this situation. I can't stand being around him (we're still in the same house.) I was really a mess when I found out. I had trusted him completely and so I stopped the proceedings once. Now I feel strong enough to go through with it. It will still be difficult, but I just don't trust him or care for him anymore.
- —Guest old wife
cheating
- i think my husband has cheated on me for many reasons.1). i found a nose ring and belly button ring in my bed, not mine, and I had 5 condoms in my room that are all gone but one.
- —Guest kelly
thinks he's above the law
- I found out my husband of 19 years was cheating on my by accessing his cell phone. I found several sexual text msgs from a cadet in the police academy-Cassandra. I confronted him about the txt msgs and who she was. He denied any involvement and told me she was a lesbian.Which I later found out was a lie told to the other cadets. Since he had cheated on me before I knew the signs. One new thing this time was that he shaved his genitals.So I kicked his butt out. Next thing I know he is living with this girl who is 21 yrs younger than him. Talk about mid life crisis. I hope they are happy. Cause now I am rid of his dead weight.
- —Guest Stronger than he thinks
oh my goodness
- I never knew that so many other people had such similar stories to mine. I am currently 8 months pregnant w/our first child & dealing w/a blatant cheater & all of his whores. They will "tweet" about it etc, he just stayed w/ girl for a week completely disregarding me & my condition. She is a evil perso who thinks the sad state of our marriage is funny! I know EVERYTHING comes back but it doesn't hurt any less. She isn't the first & what she doesn't realize is if we divorce & they end up together he will only do it to her. What's worse is she'll post about me all over twitter, how I'M WRONG & she hasn't done anything wrong. If any of you have a twitter add me....it'd be nice to talk to other people going through or who have been through where I am now. twitter.com/inevitablyloved
- —Guest relieved
Ms.
- A co-worker at my husband's part time job and I were talking. She complimented my husband on how well he got along with everyone at work, especially this MS. A. She wasn't rude, but I caught on as Ms. A. had rubbed up my husband in front of me and said how wonderful he was while giving me the cat that swallowed the mouse look. My husband for a long period of time had started doing favors for Ms. A., and her friend, our sex life was pitiful and he started to go on more about me being literally stupid. He started calling me not only old lady, but treating me like I am senile. On his regular job he had certain days off early, but would not come home until later or getting up earlier to go to the gym. At first I shrugged all this off, thinking I was imagining things, but when his co-worker made mention of the other woman; I said now others are bringing this to me, time to ask him. I did, he blew up and said how dare she make rumors, which she didn't. Admitted wanted more time with he
- —Guest Tiger
I hate cell phones
- In Aug. 06, my wife insisted I needed a cell. We went down to the store & since she had an account, blah, blah, she upgraded & I got the hand me down. I started exploring & the text sex I found floored me. It was this same time she started stopping for drinks after work nightly. It got later & later, till she didn't come home at all. Long story short, I'm stuck in a DeJa Vu all over again. She forgets to come home, except now, I have had 0 access to her cell. 3 yrs ago I said the cell or me, I ended up in jail. She has snuck behind my back & gotten new cells. Only reason I knew was friends had the # B4 me & they told me the #.(of course I called it. Surprised to say the least) Her current cell, I finally got to see it the other nite. I put memory. card in my 'puter, clean, squeaky clean, sim card was gone. Last 7 days shes been home 2. She's gone now, to get her thoughts together. I played the game once & ended up in jail. Once bitten twice shy, I'm done w/this one!!
- —Guest sosueme
