There is a reason Passive Aggressive behavior is referred to as "crazy making behavior." If you've been in a relationship with a passive aggressive you fully understand how insanity producing it can be trying to maintain such a relationship.

The passive aggressive has an inability to express anger in a healthy manner. Their feelings may be so repressed that they don't even realize they are angry or feeling resentment toward a relationship partner. They may be sincerely troubled by your response to their actions which plays a huge role in you, the partner, questioning your own view of what is happening in the relationship.

Due to their own lack of insight into their feelings the passive aggressive often feels that others misunderstand them or, are holding them to unreasonable standards if they are confronted about their behavior. Passive aggressive behavior is a form of covert abuse that can damage and eventually destroy a relationship.

Dealing with a difficult ex can be very discouraging, frustrating and defeating. If there are children involved we feel it is our responsibility to try to have a healthy relationship with our ex for their sake. At times, your efforts to co-parent civilly may not be returned, hence the frustration.

If your ex makes you want to pull your hair out or, run screaming maybe it's a combination of the two of you and how you interact with each other. Learning some new skills for resolving conflict might be all that is needing in your situation.

Then again, maybe your ex is incapable of respecting boundaries or caring about the welfare of his/her children. If you divorced someone who seems hell-bent on making your life miserable then you need to learn how to deal with a toxic ex who can't police their impulse or need to constantly stir the pot and cause friction.

The grieving process one goes through during and after a divorce is very much like grieving the death of a loved one. Working through your grief can be a painful process, but it is necessary to ensure your future emotional and physical well-being.

According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, author of On Death and Dying, the emotional stages of grief are "responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss as there is no typical loss. Our grief is as individual as our lives."

In today's society the loss of a marriage seems to be "typical." How you grieve that loss will greatly determine how productive the rest of your life is.

It is easy to become caught up in thoughts or beliefs that keep us stuck in a negative place after divorce. Learning how to cope and "let go" of those negative emotions during and after the divorce process helps us move on from the dreams and hopes we had and start building a new life with new dreams and hopes.

Do you ever wonder how many people end up with a divorce they didn't want? Divorce is an emotionally charged issue and I have to wonder how many people jump into it without giving it the proper thought.

If you are thinking about divorce, ask yourself these questions before you act on your feelings. Divorce shouldn't be rushed into. Especially if you still have feelings for your spouse and all you need is to change the dynamics of the relationship.

You may think the problems in your marriage are irreconcilable but personality differences, unmet needs, anger and resentment and infidelity can be reconciled with work and effort. And if you've invested years in a marriage isn't it worth a bit of time and effort before walking away?