Thursday December 10, 2009
Think about it, if you are in a relationship with someone on the rebound, you are in a relationship with someone who is needy and vulnerable. Not exactly a safe place to be! Needy, vulnerable people use a rebound relationship as a coping mechanism.
Instead of partnering with you, they are making you responsible for their need to feel better.
Below are a few emotions a person feels after divorce:
Confusion
Anxiety
Loneliness
Depression
Low self-esteem
Emotionally vulnerable
Some people deal with these negative feelings by covering them with a new relationship. It is so much more fun to focus on a new love than focus on healing the pain of a divorce.
Some argue that the best way to get over someone is to find a replacement unit. I disagree because a replacement for lost love does not negate the issues that caused...post continued.
Sunday December 6, 2009
You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.
You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don't confuse signs with proof.
1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."
If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.
2. "We are just friends."
This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new "friend" then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it's a big warning sign and one you should...post continued
Wednesday December 2, 2009
Below is the full text of the apology Tiger Woods post to his website.
I have let my family down and I regret those transgressions with all of my heart. I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect. I am dealing with my behavior and personal failings behind closed doors with my family. Those feelings should be shared by us alone.
Although I am a well-known person and have made my career as a professional athlete, I have been dismayed to realize the full extent of what tabloid scrutiny really means. For the last week, my family and I have been hounded to expose intimate details of our personal lives. The stories in particular that physical violence played any role in the car accident were utterly false and malicious. Elin has always done more to support our family and shown more grace than anyone could possibly expect.
But no matter how intense curiosity about public figures can be, there is an important and deep principle at stake which is the right to some simple, human measure of privacy. I realize there are some who don't share my view on that. But for me, the virtue of privacy is one that must be protected in matters that are intimate and within one's own family. Personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn't have to mean public confessions.
Whatever regrets I have about letting my family down have been shared with and felt by us alone. I have given this a lot of reflection and thought and I believe that there is a point at which I must stick to that principle even though it's difficult.
I will strive to be a better person and the husband and father that my family deserves. For all of those who have supported me over the years, I offer my profound apology.
"But for me, the virtue of privacy is one that must be protected in matters that are intimate and within one's own family."
I agree with the above statement, private matters should be dealt with within one's own family. Wouldn't it be nice for all of us if that was the way life worked.
I've read that Tiger's affairs are no one's business, but what others don't understand is, public scorn is one of the consequences of cheating on a spouse.
If I cheated on my husband you can bet my neighbors and relatives would be talking and sharing opinions. In my little world, it would be a big deal that got the attention of others. The only difference between Tiger and I is that my world is smaller than his.
Tiger Woods cheated on his wife while she was pregnant. What did he think would happen if that "intimate detail" of his life became public? Unless he has been living under a rock he had to have known that celebrity infidelty is big news.
Infidelty is news whether you are a celebrity or not and if you've cheated you really aren't in a position to pass judgment on those who have an opinion about the behavior.
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Wednesday December 2, 2009
In a statement posted to his website Wednesday evening, Tiger Woods says that he has let his family down and is sorry for "those transgressions."
Seems Tiger has been a very busy man! Two other women have now come forward to talk about their relationship with Tiger Woods.
Jaimie Grubbs has released the audio content of a voicemail she received from Tiger. USWeekly Magazine has posted the voicemail if you care to listen.
"Hey. It's , uh, it's Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Um. Can you please take your name off my phone? My wife went through my phone and may uh, may be calling you. If you can, take your name off that, and if you can just have it has a number on the voicemail. Just have it as your number. Do me a huge favor. Okay?"
Kalika Moquin, like Rachel Uchitel, is another nightclub executive, this time a marketing manager with the Bank Nightclub in Las Vegas. However, unlike Jaimie Grubbs, she is not talking about everything that happened.
According to Life and Style Magazine, Kalika Moquin, left, a marketing manager for The Bank nightclub in Las Vegas She hooked up with Tiger more than once at his Las Vegas hotel during the weekend of Oct. 23.
Another well-respected icon shows his true colors. We are all human and prone to make mistakes but if you are going to wear a good guy persona, why not put effort into living the life you promote to the public?
I don't understand infidelity. It is sex folks! It isn't food needed to sustain life. It doesn't feed our emotional needs. It is nothing more than sex with someone other than your spouse and although it may feel good, it can cost you dearly.
I wonder if Tiger is feeling sex with other women is worth what he is going through personally and professionally now that he has been exposed. Bet the man is wishing he had kept his pants on.
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