Domestic abuse of any kind is about control. Whether the abuse is covert or overt, it is an immature reaction to a sense of helplessness and feelings of loss of control. An abuser will use either violent abuse or non-violent abuse to retain a feeling of control and keep their fears at bay.
There are many types of abuse a person can inflict upon their spouse. Abuse is either violent or non-violent in nature. Domestic abuse can leave you with either physical scares or emotional scares. Recognizing abuse for what it is and responding to it properly is imperative whether it is physical abuse, emotional abuse or verbal abuse. Knowledge about why you are being abused, what the abuse is doing to you physically and emotionally is crucial if you ever wish to escape whatever is keeping you in such a destructive relationship.
Violent Forms of Abuse:
Physical abuse, being hit, pushed, shoved or kicked is what most people think of when they hear someone speak of domestic abuse. Physical abuse covers a broad range of behaviors that may include something as simple as pinching a spouse to something as frightening as choking or assaulting a spouse with a weapon. Below you will find links to information about physical abuse, how to protect yourself from it and how to leave a relationship in which you are being abused.
- Are You Being Abused?
- The Need to Control And It’s Relationship to Abuse
- Types of Abuse
- Negative Effects of Domestic Violence
- Reasons People Stay In Abusive Relationships
- Leaving an Abusive Relationship
- What is a Restraining Order
Non-Violent Forms of Abuse:
Non-violent forms of abuse are sly and underhanded. Some examples of non-violent abuse would be withholding affection and intimacy, rolling their eyes when you state an opinion, constantly being late or forgetting and verbally demeaning you and your efforts. If you are living in an atmosphere of fear, intimidation and unpredictability the links below will shed light on why you feel the way you feel.
- Identify And Respond to Verbal Abuse
- Are You a Victim of Emotional Abuse?
- Withholding Sex as a Form of Punishment
- Passive Aggressive Behavior, a Form of Covert Abuse
- Recovering From Passive Aggressive Behavior
Leaving an Abusive Relationship:
Although removing yourself from an abusive situation can be difficult and at time dangerous it is possible. When preparing to leave it is important to have a plan and a good support system before making an actual move.
If you are a victim of domestic violence and need assistance the first place you should seek help from is the National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or, 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). The link below offers resources such as state laws pertaining to domestic violence, programs offering assistance and other information to help victims and families of victims of domestic violence.